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“This
worldly lady helped to develop A.A. in
Chicago
and thus passed her keys to many."
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According to member list index
cards kept by the
Chicago
group, Sylvia's date of sobriety was September 13, 1939. Sylvia was probably
the first woman to achieve long term sobriety, from then until her death. The
false notion has been perpetuated that Marty M. ("Women Suffer
Too,") |
was the first female in A.A.
with enduring sobriety. After repeated slips Marty finally was sober from
Christmas 1940 until some time around
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1960, when she again relapsed.
She sobered again and remained so until her death. |
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Sylvia was raised in a good
environment with loving and conscientious parents and given every advantage:
the best schools, summer camps, resort |
Vacations and…. She was the product of the post-war
prohibition era of the roaring '20s. She married at twenty, had two children,
and was |
divorced at twenty-three. This
gave her a good excuse to drink. By twenty-five she had developed into an
alcoholic. She began making the |
Rounds of the doctors in the
hope that one of them might find a cure for her accumulating ailments, most
of whom prescribed sedatives and
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advised rest and moderation.
Between the ages of twenty-five the wine diet, timing, measuring, and spacing
of drinks. Nothing worked. The |
next three years saw her in
sanitariums, once in a ten-day coma from which she very nearly died. She
wanted to die, but had lost the courage to |
try. For about one year prior to this time there was
one doctor who did not give up on her. He tried everything he could think of,
including
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having her go to mass every morning at six a.m., and
performing the most menial labor for his charity patients. This doctor
apparently had the
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intuitive knowledge that spirituality and helping
others might be the answer.
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In the 1939 this doctor heard
of the book Alcoholics Anonymous and wrote to
New York
for a copy. After reading it he
tucked it under his arm |
and called on Sylvia. That visit marked the turning
point of her life. He must have studied the book carefully because he took
its advice. He gave
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her the cold, hard facts about her condition, and that
she would either die of acute alcoholism, develop a wet brain, or have to be
put away
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permanently. Then he told her of the handful of people
in
Akron
and
New York
who seemed to have worked out a
technique for arresting their
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alcoholism. He asked her to
read the book and to talk with a man who experienced success by using this
plan. This was Earl T. ("He Sold |
Himself Short" – 2nd & 3rd Ed.),
the "Mr. T." to whom she refers on page 309. Earl suggested she
visit
Akron
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According to Bill W., she got off |
to a slow start there, and may
also have been a pill addict. She took a lot of "little white
pills" which she claimed were saccharin, and no one |
could understand why she was
so rubber-legged. A nurse was flown in, presumably from
Chicago
, to take care of her. |
Sylvia stayed two weeks at
Clarence (Clarence S., "The Home Brewmeister") and Dorothy S.'s
home in
Cleveland
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She met Dr. Bob, who |
brought other A.A. men to meet
her. Dorothy S. said that the men "were only too willing to talk to her
after they saw her." Sylvia was a |
glamorous divorcee, extremely good looking, and rich.
But these attractions probably did not help her with the wives of the
alcoholics, who were
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known on occasion to run women
out. After meeting Dr. Bob she wanted to move to
Akron
, but this caused great consternation,
since her |
presence threatened to disrupt the whole group. Someone
told her it would mean a great deal more if she could go back and help in
Chicago
. She
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went back to
Chicago
where she eventually got sober
September 13, 1939. She worked closely with Earl T., and her personal
secretary, |
Grace C., became the first secretary at the Intergroup
office in
Chicago
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the first in the country.
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Sylvia updated her story in
the January 1969 issue of the "A.A. Grapevine." She tells how busy
her first ten years in A.A. were, but how all this |
Tremendous activity, by
bringing her into almost constant contact with other members, provided her
with everything she most desperately |
needed to save her life. As she looked back she
realized this was the most excitingly beautiful period of her life. When she
wrote this update,
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Sylvia had been living in
Sarasota
,
Florida
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with her husband, Dr. Ed S., and was soon to celebrate their eighteenth
wedding anniversary. "He is
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an alky, too, and our lives have been enriched by our
mutual faith and perseverance in the A.A. way of life. Through it we have
found a quality of
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happiness and serenity that, we believe, could not have
been realized in any other way. Small wonder our gratitude knows no
bounds."
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